Madison Talon

In friends on my list who are not friends.
I run a club. People who do business with me....friend request.
People i talk to at events...friend request.
Someone who walks into the club when i am there...friend request.

I don't turn them down becuz I want them to like the club.

Then i get randome messages from them and I barely remember who they are. And they think I am their best friend.

How do the rest of you handle this??

Free Xue

I DJ and get a lot of this as well.

As long as they're not asking for sex, money, or time to devote to an activity they're involved with (egad, or all 3!), I try to treat them friendly. I usually say "hiya", ask what's up with them, and do the chat equivalent of the discussion nod, letting them do the bulk of the chatting.

Most of them are just looking for an ear.

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Confused

I basically do what Free does...

I will accept for the most part, howver if the prson does not IM me within a few weeks i remove them from my list. I have to clean my list reguarly becuase irarely remember who they are if they havent chatted to me (I seem to get a lot of those).

Running both a club and a store my friends list is already an insane list with real friends, staff members, business contacts that if i dont clean off the random invites id never be able to find anyone hehe

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Siobhan OFlynn

I don't run a business or a club, but I've helped many, many newbies and have most of them on my friends list. I usually make a few notes about the person on their profile (the last tab) about where we met, etc. Helps to keep me from looking like a moron when they IM me out of the blue 2 years later.

FWIW, since I don't have thousands of contacts, I never remove anyone from my friends list.

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Khloe

untick them so they do not know you are online when you are having private or alone time. When you are working or at the club, have everyone checked. When you are on "your time" untick everyone but friends. It's a pain, but less work than answering people you do not wish to chat.

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Beebo Brink

I run a small bar, with a friendly welcoming atmosphere (or at least that's the goal), so I get lots of Friends requests from people there. I try to look at the Friending as their expression of support for the establishment rather than an expectation that we will really be friends.

My original attitude was never to take anyone off the list because I didn't want to hurt their feelings. I've since hardened my criteria just a little to cull off names from people who may have visited once or twice and never returned. But that's been fewer than a dozen names out well over a hundred Friends.

I've read some posts on SLU where people talk about culling their Friends list based on whether they've actually heard from somone in the last month, or even week. I have Friends I haven't heard from inworld for over a year, but they're still my friends. I like seeing their name on my list, and even when I don't talk to them inworld, I get such a smile on my face when I log in and see a bunch of people from SLU are also logged in, doing their thing.

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Jura Shepherd

meh... If I've actually talked to them I generally accept and don't really cull my list unless they are annoying in some way or clearly not in SL anymore.

Semi-related to this: I'd sell my prim soul for better contact organization. Even simple folders/tabs would be fine. Something like:

| FRIENDS | BUSINESS | TARDS THAT MAKE ME LAUGH |

..I can dream.

Camille Serpentine

I miss the days of card stats.

Yuo

Calling cards are wholly underused. Ive always thought they should swap the 2 on the pie chart and have a calling card request button on profiles so people use those first, and then friend later, and then have some kind of awareness campaign to make residents value them more.

Khamon

I've no idea how many friends are on my list; does it matter? Will it perhaps help the system to operate more smoothly if I cull a few thousand links? To the other point, everyone on my list can see me online and can map me, I mean, this is social software yeah? If I don't want to be bothered, there's a logout button and plenty of privacy in the real world. Visit me please.

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Camille Serpentine

I think I had your card once.
I deleted it.


*granted this was before the conversion of L$ to US$ and they kept card stats on the SL website.
-Gotta catch them all! was my motto.

I forget how many I had when I decided that I'd never keep up, so I ended up deleting all but the people I specifically talked to on a daily basis.

Arilynn

I'm an oncall mentor for Virtual Ability, so I meet a lot of people who are just starting SL. Some of them request friendship, which I always accept. I then use the "Notes" section to remember where I met them: I generally only hear from them again when they have stray requests that I normally wouldn't spend much time on from strangers (e.g., "How do I make money in SL?"), so the Note tells me to take more time. I almost always do not remember them, but I don't see that as a big problem, even if they remember me fondly.

Carter-Madhu

I have the same experiences, Madison - I often get friendship offers from visitors to my cafe and I do accept all of them because I want the place to be warm and welcoming.

Usually I never hear from them again, and they just sit on my friends list. Sometimes they IM me once or twice, especially if they are relatively new to SL and haven't met other friends yet, and when that happens I try to be polite and warm (and honest, if I'm too busy to talk), just as Free said.

And sometimes, they even become true friends of mine.

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WADE1 Jya

hey no problem with being up to your ears in friends.... perhaps some people might even be jealous of that!

i get the "best friend" syndrome sometimes, but best is just be polite & nice to them, if you're busy, don't let them take up too much of your time. who knows if you chat with them a little you might make a new friend?

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Pamela Galli

Since all but a handful on my list are customers, I look at it as a customer list of sorts -- tho I use my actual customer list for notices. But it helps me find customers easily without having to do a search. I use the Emerald Autoresponse to intercept all IMs so I don't get random How are ya? message very often.

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Yuo

Whats the best way to make sure someone never talks to you again? Friend them

Siggy

As a rule I decline them.

*shrug* I save the friend thing for people who are.... friends.

I like to keep the list low and full of people I actually converse with on a regular basis. If it gets to 'who was that again?' they get deleted.

I do the same on other networks too. Just makes my life simpler.

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Lewis Luminos

I will accept friends requests from almost anyone if I've had an actual conversation with them but if it gets to the point where I have no idea who they are, I take them off.

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