Beebo Brink

Both of my partnerships (the first lasted 14 years, the second 18 and still going strong) were based on the assumption of monogamy. Nonetheless in my first relationship we both ended up having affairs which were not furtive and secretive. They were short-lived and never attained a true relationship status, but they did provide an interesting glimpse into my own reactions and emotions.

I discovered that I'm not sexually jealous when I'm emotionally secure of my place in my partner's life. If that position is devalued then whether or not sex is involved, I'm going to be unhappy.

This isn't something I decided, it's just my nature. My only qualm about poly relationships is the sheer logistics of it. Sharing is more difficult when life in general is cutting into your fee time.

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