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Brenda Connolly · 08-07-2008, 06:53 PM

I don't have any internet life beyond what has come from SL to go by, but I guess it's partly the anonymity, and partly it seems a lot of people on the net are mouth breathing basement dwellers with the maturity of a screw top bottle of wine and Zero socialization skills.

I have no use for grudges, I prefer just to slay someone where they stand and move on.

Surreal Farber · 08-07-2008, 07:04 PM

Forgiveness for serious injury as to be earned by acknowledgment, restitution, and no repetition. Otherwise, I'm not that interested in dealing with someone.

But I do mean serious.

Beebo Brink · 08-07-2008, 07:29 PM

I don't hold grudges.

I wish I could claim it was due to a generous and compassionate nature, but the truth is I simply can't remember the injury for very long. Literally can't. My short term memory sucks, and my long-term memory is very picky about what it considers worthy of keeping track of, so within a relatively short amount of time all the details of the drahma and the insults that were visited upon me start to fuzz. A little more time and I pretty much forget everything except the vague idea that I'm supposed to be angry at someone, but it's hard to maintain a proper head of steam when I can't stoke it with any concrete examples.

One really great advantage to this memory failure is that I never wallow in The Good Old Days because they've been sufficiently erased beyond the power of nostalgia to resurrect.

Vivianne Draper · 08-08-2008, 12:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Ingrid

Forgiveness is for suckers. And grudges are just good common sense.

oh piffile on you. we managed to make up so there ;p

Vivianne Draper · 08-08-2008, 12:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Sooz Pascale

Revenge is dish best eaten cold.

Sooz

I disagree. I think its better served lukewarm.

Lecktor Hannibal · 08-08-2008, 12:57 AM

Revenge, tastes like spotted dick.

Vengence Opus · 08-08-2008, 12:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Lecktor Hannibal

Revenge, tastes like spotted dick.

i was gonna say tapioca, but hey! tapioca and spotted dick go well together.

Arilynn · 08-08-2008, 01:00 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Beebo Brink

I don't hold grudges.

I wish I could claim it was due to a generous and compassionate nature, but the truth is I simply can't remember the injury for very long. Literally can't. My short term memory sucks, and my long-term memory is very picky about what it considers worthy of keeping track of, so within a relatively short amount of time all the details of the drahma and the insults that were visited upon me start to fuzz. A little more time and I pretty much forget everything except the vague idea that I'm supposed to be angry at someone, but it's hard to maintain a proper head of steam when I can't stoke it with any concrete examples.

One really great advantage to this memory failure is that I never wallow in The Good Old Days because they've been sufficiently erased beyond the power of nostalgia to resurrect.

I am similar. But it might be slightly different. I try not to pay attention to insults or nastiness in forums. I walk away from it, push it out of my mind, and don't return to reread the thread, etc. After a while, I also just have a vague feeling that someone said something I disliked, but I try not to bring it up in my mind.

I also tend to think that people wrote whatever rabid rant they wrote when they had rabies. Then the rabies passed, and the real person returned and probably would soften their words if they could (bad analogy because rabies is fatal, but please play along). But also some people are angry asses looking for a fight - I try not to take them seriously, get involved in their fights, or pay any attention to them. They are just these tiny little angry figures, waving their tiny little fists, stamping their tiny little feet, and screaming their insults from a deep hole in the bottom of some endless post that I didn't finish reading.

Lastly, I am really hard to offend. There have been too many times when I have been completely enraged about a post (not here), wrote a nasty reply explaining the universe to the person, reread their post before I sent my reply, and realized I took things too seriously, blew them out of proportion, wasted time feeding a fire or yelling at a brick, or misunderstood the intent/meaning. Then I quickly back out of my crazed response with relief I didn't hit "submit". I don't think I have ever regretted not posting a reply, but I know I have often regretted posting something.

jauani · 08-08-2008, 01:06 AM

it's so much easier to hold a grudge on the internet but the problem is they don't amount to much. the only grudge i have is on this forum but i'm finding it's very difficult to figure out how to let it shape my behaviour..

Mourna Biziou · 08-08-2008, 01:17 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Beebo Brink

I don't hold grudges.

I wish I could claim it was due to a generous and compassionate nature, but the truth is I simply can't remember the injury for very long. Literally can't. My short term memory sucks, and my long-term memory is very picky about what it considers worthy of keeping track of, so within a relatively short amount of time all the details of the drahma and the insults that were visited upon me start to fuzz. A little more time and I pretty much forget everything except the vague idea that I'm supposed to be angry at someone, but it's hard to maintain a proper head of steam when I can't stoke it with any concrete examples.

One really great advantage to this memory failure is that I never wallow in The Good Old Days because they've been sufficiently erased beyond the power of nostalgia to resurrect.

haha. This is so me. Except add in a good dash of laziness. I really just don't have the stamina to hold on to a firey burning grudge

Beau Perkins · 08-08-2008, 01:21 AM

Cindy I don't think you hate me. I do think you look for ways to disagree at times. I think you sometimes have a habbit of taking what I am saying in the worse possible way. If I say something and accidentally I am not totally clear, at times there are some people that like to automatically assume I mean whatever I am trying to say in a very negative way. This may be partially my fault because of my behavior on a few occasions. So I don't blame anyone really.

As for grudges.

I find they take too much energy. I cant even remember what started most of my heated ugly moments on this forum. For instance, for a while Joshua and I were going at it weekly. We had some epic threads, when I think back now cant ever remember why.

I find it is healthier to just let go of anger. I cant say I am here with the intent of making friends, but I definitely am not here to make enemies either.

Now, I know more than a few people on this forum has recieved private appologies from me. There are two in particular that through them back in my face and said I was acting like a little bitch. I do tend to take that a little personal. When I send a PM to apologize in private and it gets used against me to make me look weak, my ego kicks in. This is what brought about my very personal attack on Briana a few weeks ago. That made me rethink all the history between us and made me boil to a point I wanted to say "fuck you" in the meanest way possible.

Joshua, I dont think you hold grudges as bad as you say. You and I have exchanged some harsh words in public. What a lot of people don't know is more than a couple times we settled it in PM and moved on. I think you and I even can say we get along now. We still disagree often, that will never change, but I dont think neither of us holds hate for each other. I know on my end I don't.....anymore. There was a time I really did think I hated you.

There are other people I can be in one thread going nose to nose with on a topic, but be in another laughing up a storm. Cindy, Surreal, Jessyanne and Io all come to mind there.

There are 3 people I think that really hold a grudge against me. It seems they are always ready to take offense to anything I say.

Anyways. I guess what I am saying is if I have made anyone hate me here, I am sorry. Fact is there is nobody on this forum I can say I hate. There are a few I think it is best I avoid, because history repeats itself. I hope nobody thinks I am here just to make enemies. I am not. I am here because this forum offers so many different, interesting personalities. Just because I am debating with you an a particular topic, it does not mean I am mad at you. It does not mean I hate you. I just don't like your opinion on a topic. Isn't that what forums are in the end? A never ending multi-user blog of all out different opinions?

Tyche Shepherd · 08-08-2008, 04:06 AM

I have found that by sublimating all my rage and spite into a grudge formed when I was 11 helps me get through life very well . If you do it really well then you never really have the inclination or the energy to make and pursue new grudges and conflicts . Every now and then I do slip and on this forum I've made one or two personal attacks against people who's views I didn't agree with - and I'm sorry for that and a little ashamed , however remembering what that Bitch Kath Cavenagh did a long time ago pisses me off enough to realise everything else is not worth getting my knickers in a twist .

(This is probably not as tongue in cheek as it sounds - and maybe I really do owe Kath something

... (the Bitch !) )

Ingrid N. · 08-08-2008, 05:09 AM

I don't really hold grudges, especially when relating to internets people. I'm one of those morons who will always try to patch things up even with the most assholetastic scumfuckers until I finally give up exasperatedly. After that I usually ignore them and go on with my life.

I migh like exchanging the occasional harsh word with people (it's fun!), but I'm not in the business of conducting INTERNET GRUDGEFUCK FORUMWAR 2008!!!11

caroline ra · 08-08-2008, 05:28 AM

I dont hold grudges as such but I do take note of what people say and the stance they adopt on some issues. This colours my opinion of them and if theyve irritated me enough I avoid reading what they post and try never ever to respond to them.

This might sound ignorant on my part but it maintains my normally tranquil equilibrium and avoids what could become a very nasty flame war (Im a reformed flame warrior now but do get incredibly tempted to kick off sometimes)

CALM BLUE OCEAN, CALM BLUE OCEAN

Essence Lumin · 08-08-2008, 07:22 AM

Yesterday was a rather spectacular flamewar here. SLU is tame most of the time thankfully though. The old SL boards had major flamewars over and over again.

Ingrid N. · 08-08-2008, 07:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Essence Lumin

Yesterday was a rather spectacular flamewar here. SLU is tame most of the time thankfully though. The old SL boards had major flamewars over and over again.

Did Cris delete the good bits again?

Because if so:

Cindy Claveau · 08-08-2008, 08:39 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Beau Perkins

Cindy I don't think you hate me. I do think you look for ways to disagree at times. I think you sometimes have a habbit of taking what I am saying in the worse possible way. If I say something and accidentally I am not totally clear, at times there are some people that like to automatically assume I mean whatever I am trying to say in a very negative way. This may be partially my fault because of my behavior on a few occasions. So I don't blame anyone really.

FFS, Beau, I was joking

It was a lampoon of a comment you made not long ago somewhere else about how you used to think everyone hated you. Jokes are never as funny when I have to explain them

This reminds me of some of my conversations with my husband.

Me: "You argue with me about everything."
Him: "I DO NOT!"
Me: "You do too. See?"
Him: "NO I DON'T!"
Me: "You just proved my point."
Him: "Bitch."

Quote:

There are other people I can be in one thread going nose to nose with on a topic, but be in another laughing up a storm. Cindy, Surreal, Jessyanne and Io all come to mind there.

DO NOT!

Oh. Wait, that was a good thing, wasn't it?

Ten · 08-08-2008, 08:43 AM

Cindy... Maybe your dad and your aunt had sex long ago in the 60's when everything was peace and love.

Just sayin'.

Cindy Claveau · 08-08-2008, 08:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Ten

Cindy... Maybe your dad and your aunt had sex long ago in the 60's when everything was peace and love.

Just sayin'.

Ok, that's just ... (covers her ears and goes "lalalallalala")

My aunt is such a prude that'd be like accusing Britney Spears of virginity.

No, what actually happened was that I had another aunt who died at the age of 2. My dad was telling me the story of how, after she died, the surviving sister became untouchable. Being her brother of course, the natural inclination was for him to pick on her sometimes. But if he even looked cross-eyed at her he got in trouble.

So he had this simmering grudge against her anyway. But when my grandfather (their dad) had his last heart atack, it was my aunt who was called in the middle of the night to come be with him for his last few moments. My dad wasn't called until the next day. He never really forgave her for that.

CaleVinson · 08-08-2008, 10:24 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Beebo Brink

I don't hold grudges.

I wish I could claim it was due to a generous and compassionate nature, but the truth is I simply can't remember the injury for very long. Literally can't. My short term memory sucks, and my long-term memory is very picky about what it considers worthy of keeping track of, so within a relatively short amount of time all the details of the drahma and the insults that were visited upon me start to fuzz. A little more time and I pretty much forget everything except the vague idea that I'm supposed to be angry at someone, but it's hard to maintain a proper head of steam when I can't stoke it with any concrete examples.

How incredibly irritating of you !!!!111!!!!

08-07-2008, 07:29 PM	#53 (permalink)
Beebo Brink Uppity Alt I'm the woman your mother warned you about. Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 3,091 SL Join Date: October 2006 Business: Brazen Women Shapes and Skins SLShopper Ads: 20 My Mood:	I don't hold grudges. I wish I could claim it was due to a generous and compassionate nature, but the truth is I simply can't remember the injury for very long. Literally can't. My short term memory sucks, and my long-term memory is very picky about what it considers worthy of keeping track of, so within a relatively short amount of time all the details of the drahma and the insults that were visited upon me start to fuzz. A little more time and I pretty much forget everything except the vague idea that I'm supposed to be angry at someone, but it's hard to maintain a proper head of steam when I can't stoke it with any concrete examples. One really great advantage to this memory failure is that I never wallow in The Good Old Days because they've been sufficiently erased beyond the power of nostalgia to resurrect. __________________ Browse http://www.BrazenWomen.com

08-08-2008, 01:06 AM	#59 (permalink)
jauani Star Chamber Captain Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: haunted labyrinth Posts: 749 Addiction Solitaire Champion! My Mood:	it's so much easier to hold a grudge on the internet but the problem is they don't amount to much. the only grudge i have is on this forum but i'm finding it's very difficult to figure out how to let it shape my behaviour.. __________________ i'm not in this thread

08-08-2008, 01:21 AM	#61 (permalink)
Beau Perkins Is a sickly peach color I'm a heretical Jew Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: CT Posts: 6,114 SL Join Date: 12/24/2003 My Mood:	Cindy I don't think you hate me. I do think you look for ways to disagree at times. I think you sometimes have a habbit of taking what I am saying in the worse possible way. If I say something and accidentally I am not totally clear, at times there are some people that like to automatically assume I mean whatever I am trying to say in a very negative way. This may be partially my fault because of my behavior on a few occasions. So I don't blame anyone really. As for grudges. I find they take too much energy. I cant even remember what started most of my heated ugly moments on this forum. For instance, for a while Joshua and I were going at it weekly. We had some epic threads, when I think back now cant ever remember why. I find it is healthier to just let go of anger. I cant say I am here with the intent of making friends, but I definitely am not here to make enemies either. Now, I know more than a few people on this forum has recieved private appologies from me. There are two in particular that through them back in my face and said I was acting like a little bitch. I do tend to take that a little personal. When I send a PM to apologize in private and it gets used against me to make me look weak, my ego kicks in. This is what brought about my very personal attack on Briana a few weeks ago. That made me rethink all the history between us and made me boil to a point I wanted to say "fuck you" in the meanest way possible. Joshua, I dont think you hold grudges as bad as you say. You and I have exchanged some harsh words in public. What a lot of people don't know is more than a couple times we settled it in PM and moved on. I think you and I even can say we get along now. We still disagree often, that will never change, but I dont think neither of us holds hate for each other. I know on my end I don't.....anymore. There was a time I really did think I hated you. There are other people I can be in one thread going nose to nose with on a topic, but be in another laughing up a storm. Cindy, Surreal, Jessyanne and Io all come to mind there. There are 3 people I think that really hold a grudge against me. It seems they are always ready to take offense to anything I say. Anyways. I guess what I am saying is if I have made anyone hate me here, I am sorry. Fact is there is nobody on this forum I can say I hate. There are a few I think it is best I avoid, because history repeats itself. I hope nobody thinks I am here just to make enemies. I am not. I am here because this forum offers so many different, interesting personalities. Just because I am debating with you an a particular topic, it does not mean I am mad at you. It does not mean I hate you. I just don't like your opinion on a topic. Isn't that what forums are in the end? A never ending multi-user blog of all out different opinions? __________________ Living is easy with eyes closed Misunderstanding all you see It's getting hard to be someone, but it all works out It doesn't matter much to me -John Lennon. Last edited by Beau Perkins; 08-08-2008 at 01:26 AM..

08-08-2008, 04:06 AM	#62 (permalink)
Tyche Shepherd Fortuna vitrea est Goats ?.. fuck'em .. Let them milk themselves Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: UK Posts: 4,040 SL Join Date: 26th April 2007 My Mood:	I have found that by sublimating all my rage and spite into a grudge formed when I was 11 helps me get through life very well . If you do it really well then you never really have the inclination or the energy to make and pursue new grudges and conflicts . Every now and then I do slip and on this forum I've made one or two personal attacks against people who's views I didn't agree with - and I'm sorry for that and a little ashamed , however remembering what that Bitch Kath Cavenagh did a long time ago pisses me off enough to realise everything else is not worth getting my knickers in a twist . (This is probably not as tongue in cheek as it sounds - and maybe I really do owe Kath something ... (the Bitch !) ) __________________ Vanguard of the LolCatz Revolution This Post was financed by The National LolCatz Archives Clancy Sullivan :Yeah. YEAH! The sultry seamstress of mirth is definitely in charge now. Certified 7.8 on the Official Non-Arbitrary Trout Algorithmic Slut scale

08-08-2008, 05:09 AM	#63 (permalink)
Ingrid N. ist hungrig diminuitive doe Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 1,435 Blog Entries: 1 My Mood:	I don't really hold grudges, especially when relating to internets people. I'm one of those morons who will always try to patch things up even with the most assholetastic scumfuckers until I finally give up exasperatedly. After that I usually ignore them and go on with my life. I migh like exchanging the occasional harsh word with people (it's fun!), but I'm not in the business of conducting INTERNET GRUDGEFUCK FORUMWAR 2008!!!11 __________________ Oh No, Ingrid! - Fashion reviews, queer rants and horrible perversions. Written by a goat. Good times!

08-07-2008, 06:53 PM	#51 (permalink)
Brenda Connolly Konichiwa, Bitches I'll Be Back Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Nu Jerzee, USSA Posts: 4,506 SL Join Date: January 2007 My Mood:	I don't have any internet life beyond what has come from SL to go by, but I guess it's partly the anonymity, and partly it seems a lot of people on the net are mouth breathing basement dwellers with the maturity of a screw top bottle of wine and Zero socialization skills. I have no use for grudges, I prefer just to slay someone where they stand and move on.

08-07-2008, 07:04 PM	#52 (permalink)
Surreal Farber Treacherous BiSexual Doesn't Suffer Fools Gladly Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 4,294 SLShopper Ads: 6 My Mood:	Forgiveness for serious injury as to be earned by acknowledgment, restitution, and no repetition. Otherwise, I'm not that interested in dealing with someone. But I do mean serious.

08-08-2008, 05:28 AM	#64 (permalink)
caroline ra Never trust a hippy MYOB Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Zummerzet Posts: 1,337 SL Join Date: Dec 2006	I dont hold grudges as such but I do take note of what people say and the stance they adopt on some issues. This colours my opinion of them and if theyve irritated me enough I avoid reading what they post and try never ever to respond to them. This might sound ignorant on my part but it maintains my normally tranquil equilibrium and avoids what could become a very nasty flame war (Im a reformed flame warrior now but do get incredibly tempted to kick off sometimes) CALM BLUE OCEAN, CALM BLUE OCEAN

08-08-2008, 07:22 AM	#65 (permalink)
Essence Lumin Music lover Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Portland, OR, US Posts: 325 SL Join Date: Oct 24 2003	Yesterday was a rather spectacular flamewar here. SLU is tame most of the time thankfully though. The old SL boards had major flamewars over and over again.