jacqueline trudeau

...but you neeed to know some things about me.

1. RL absolutely comes first. My SL schedule is totally random, depending on what's going on in my RL. I may exit SL on a millisecond's notice. Or no notice at all. And may not return for days or weeks. Sure, we can voice chat or skype (once I get to know you). But don't expect it to be a regular thing - I live in close RL quarters and respectful of those I share it with.
   
2. My building urge may strike at any time - when I get a "creative" inspiration, better stay clear. Once I hear it's siren call, I'll focus completely on it to the exclusion of everything else for hours, days, even weeks on end. That goes doubly now that I've been forced into the world of mesh, especially that particular hell known as UV mapping. Sorry - for me building is a solitary pursuit, don't be surprised to get my "away" message. And no, you can't hang around "quietly" while I work. That never works out - no, I will not be taking breaks to have sex with you.
   
3. If I'm not immediately responding to your chit chat/sweet talk, it's possible I'm on a customer support IM. Such is the life of the SL merchant.
   
4. If your PC/Viewer is incapable of rendering mesh better pass me up. I'm not going back to system clothing / non-rigged attachments for anybody.
   
5. Speaking of which, you'll find I have an OCD-like relationship to my avatar's appearance. Don't be alarmed if, while we are out, I go into edit mode to correct that non-rigged attachment whose location is off by a micro-millimeter. Parts of me, like the prim/mesh breasts I occasionally wear, only look natural under certain lighting conditions. Here, it's best you use these windlight settings I've carefully calibrated while we are together. Just so you are seeing me as I see myself.
   
6. By the way, how much thought have you put into assembling your AV?
   
7. That's just for starters, what's your personality/interests/chatting grammar like?

And I wonder why my SL personal life is a mess?

What's your list of non-negotiable rules?

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Chalice Yao

1. Converse on a level above the hypothetical one of a creature that I might usually be eating instead.
2. Don't. Be. Clingy.
3. Don't be a synonym for whinyness.
4. I'm not your nonstop emotional boulder to cling to and get reassured by nonstop in this unjust, dark, horrible world. See 2 and 3.
5. Put at least some care into your avatar
6. Don't try to drag me into SL drama
7. Don't ask for my opinion about others.
8. Know when to just not take things too seriously and be in it for some fun.

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Aimee Weber

1. I'm complicated.
2. Nah, not really.
3. I'll eventually want to implant my eggs into your chest cavity with my ovipositor.
4. But for now, let's just snuggle.

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Chalice Yao

DATE ME

Elysium Hynes

1. Not interested, thank you for asking.

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Rosemaery Lorefield

I found SL dating to be way too much drama. And a lot of it was caused by me!

If I were to ever date again, and I won't be, it would have to be someone who could put up with my intermittent absences and being completely into what I'm doing at the moment. I run hot and cold- either I'm totally focused on something or I don't show up at all. I really don't think anyone would put up with me On days that I don't feel like doing SL, I just check for customer service issues and stay logged out if not needed.

pancake

Some of mine have already been listed:

I don't build, but #2 applies to my photography or writing. If you ask what I'm up to and my answer involves taking pictures, that's code for "stop talking and go away"


A few more of my own include but aren't limited to:

1. Don't fall for me
2. I don't voice
3. I don't exchange pictures (yes that means I don't want yours either)
4. I'm not monogamous and have zero interest in coupledom or partnering
5. No really, don't fall for me.

As I put in my Avimatch ad "Looking for one night stands but open to friends with benefits for the right guy"


I tried putting some of this in my profile, but it isn't working. In fact it's having the exact opposite effect I wanted it to.

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Nadia

Chalice's list is mine. That has been my list for years before SL. Of course, first relationship I had in SL was all of that plus. But, I broke my own rule of no relationships. Years of playing online and SL is the only place I find men wanting to be *soulmates*.

Pancake, you need to be more *blunt*. Copied from my profile:

Looking for a relationship? I'm not.
Looking for a RL hookup? I'm not.
I'm not interested in your RL pics.. I don't care what you look like, dressed or undressed.
I don't have a mic, I don't have a cam. And, no I'm not a man you jackass.
I do not voice
I do not cam
I do not like
Green eggs & ham

Sometimes I'm more cheery. Other times, I wipe it clean. When told I'm mean, I just say I'm honest. Deal with it or don't. I'm *not* a bitch about it, even if it sounds that way. I am finding the zombie thing to be a good blocker.

Edit: Chalice, can I copy yours into my profile? LOL If not, I'll just reword it some. But, I swear that came out of my brain.

pancake

I know, I really do, but people never take me seriously. They think it's "cute" or worse they think I'm some poor little broken girl they can fix.

Well pffft. :stab:

To steal a quote.

"I'm not a Princess, I don't need saving. I'm a Queen, and I got this shit handled."

They usually don't get it until about the day they are muted and deleted and wonder why I'm pissed off.


ETA - since the options seem to usually be all or nothing, I chose nothing. Every time.

Chalice Yao

Uh. Er.

..go ahead I guess :3

Nadia

I'll reword it & not be as nice

Lance Corrimal

...are you saying the next Trudeau will be mesh?


...where do I preorder?



...when? XD

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jacqueline trudeau

You see? It's pressure like this that keeps me away from the dating scene!

Ha... J/K!

Maggie

1.) I'm taken, fuck off!
2.) fuck off, I'm taken!
3.) fuck off!

Oh, my partner and I partnered a year ago this week and still going strong.

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Shiloh Lyric

1. No I will NOT partner you 2 hours after we meet.
2. I will NOT give up my own little piece of SL and move in with you and help you pay "your" rent.
3. No, you cannot dictate to me how often or at what times I should be inworld. I have an active RL with children involved. I log in when I can and as much as I'm able. Beyond that, you're on your own.
4. No, I cannot switch to voice. And even when I get my headset, I still may NOT switch to voice. Let me get to know you better, and then we'll see.
5. I know it's SL and relationships flare and burn out in the matter of days, but, please, let's take things slow. I don't draw a line between SL and RL, I am the same person in both. Get to know THAT girl and let that girl get to know you before we take things further.
6. If I am SL-sexing you, I am only SL-sexing you, and if that changes I will let you know. You are free to do as you please, but don't bring drama to my door.
7. I am honest in both worlds. I expect the same from you.
8. I can't see myself ever getting married in SL, so please don't ask. While the idea of a "wedding" sounds fun, marriage is a REAL thing to me. Not to everyone, but to me, it is.
9. Don't call me a "bitch" because I won't do things your way. Trying to control me or manipulate me is the quickest way to the door OUT. Don't let it hit you as you leave.
10. If I'm taking photos, unless you're posing with me, I really like to just be alone to do it. It's one of my favorite pastimes. Patience with that and my urge to shop is a must.
11. Yes...I have a checklist. No, I won't tell you what's on it, but it's even MORE specific than this list of 11 do's/don't's. You don't have to get a tic in every box for me to like you, but you need to be pretty damn close.

Wow. I just realized that I have become VERY picky in recent months. I like it.

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OrinB

Trouble is with me... having a partner in my profile renders me invisible! I don't even people chatting to me!

Yes i could chat to tothers, but i immediately get... but you're partnered!

my response is: SO that makes me not worth talking too?

:wankers:

Beebo Brink

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Roxie Marten

My one hard and fast rule.

The People Who Live Inside Of My Computer, Stay Inside My Computer

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Sredni Eel

I'm a DJ, not your date.

I will not dance with you. I will not cyber you. Want to talk? Fine. But I'm not interested in being your main squeeze. Or even your secondary squeeze.

See that name in the partner field? I don't care if that name no longer shows up in search. The account's been deleted, but the person behind that account has been a part of my life over 15 years.

Although...having eggs deposited into my chest cavity by your ovipositor sounds really hot.

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Beebo Brink

1. Asking you to dance is just that, an invitation to dance. It is not subtext for offering SL sex, an engagement or marriage.
2. Emoting the groping of parts of my virtual body doesn't excite me, it pisses me off.

pancake

I'm confused.

Is this thread about people who DO like or want to SL date but have strict rules or check lists or is it about those who don't SL date cause they are taken etc?

I might be in the wrong place.
Again.

eku Zhong

this thread can apply to friending too...

i dont date in SL ever
but i have problems with ppl who want to be friends and dont understand that often i am afk modelling, busy, tired, unavailable...

my real friends get this and theres never any problem if i answer them hours/days later...

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Maggie

Why can't it be about both? I don't date in SL because I'm partnered and I take it seriously enough that I don't want to mess it up. But then I also like to read what other people have to say on both subjects.

pancake

Sorry.

I'm in a monstrously foul mood of late and had been trying to spare you all. This topic is one that I deal with every time I log into SL so it drew me out, but I'm gonna head back under the bridge until I'm human again.

Galen McGinnis

You wanna date? In Sl? That's cute.

Here you go



It's CC licensed, so you can import it yourself, if you still have your Valentines Day money.

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