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Old 09-24-2008, 01:03 PM   #26 (permalink)
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One other point: Unending emo = Death. And I fully support this equation.
I am that old that I can remember the time when being emo online was actually cool

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Old 09-24-2008, 01:04 PM   #27 (permalink)
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This is such a great point that I have to quote it along with adding "agree". I do feel like I was accepted here fairly quickly ( to all). But part of that IMO is because a large percentage of my posts are bits of fluff meant to be amusing. Never underestimate the power of fluffy amusement (please see the internet domination by Lolcats as Exhibit 1).
I'm going to single you out here. You are downplaying your contribution here so far - I've been really impressed. You came along and started participating - asking questions, giving your opinion, and yes, being quite funny. You've been a fantastic example of how to become part of an established community.

I am sure it is intimidating as hell to enter a new place where it seems like everyone has known each other dating back to World War II and have their own bizarre language of inside jokes and internet speak. Hell, I don't even know what people are talking about half the time. Yet you've managed to integrate yourself really well, and it's a very cool thing to see.
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Old 09-24-2008, 01:07 PM   #28 (permalink)
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I have read the word "family" a lot here.
ugh I don't understand how people in a forum can describe themselves as family. I don't consider anyone here my family and I don't get it. I enjoy seeing the other regulars and I'd say there are some friendships made but that's the extent of it in my opinion.
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Thanks for de-lurking and letting us get to know you.

I've been around the forum now for quite a while, some months, and I still feel like an outsider a lot of the time. Mainly that's because I don't spend as much time participating in and around the forum as I could -- I still just mostly read. I know my limits and threshold about just how much inter-family whoopin' I could take without wanting to take my ball and go home, so I just stay quiet.

It's actually really strange, because I am TOTALLY not quiet once you get to know me or in a more private setting. But I've had the emotional crap pounded out of me on some forums before, so I guess that's my own personal baggage I'm dealing with.

Either way, welcome aboard.
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I'm rather amused with the way in which the SC "ZOMG it's a shark tank!" mantle appears to be floating around in search of a new pair of shoulders to settle on. Trolls like what-his-name venting spleen over on the official forum seem to need that concept, and will not let it go even when it doesn't fit any existing forum.

SC deserved that reputation in some ways, but I found it to be a wonderful, welcoming community right away. I jumped in without even lurking and felt right at home from day one. It takes a certain degree of genial bravado and humor, but if it could be done at SC, it can be done anywhere. That was the acid bath test.
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Old 09-24-2008, 01:12 PM   #34 (permalink)
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ugh I don't understand how people in a forum can describe themselves as family. I don't consider anyone here my family and I don't get it. I enjoy seeing the other regulars and I'd say there are some friendships made but that's the extent of it in my opinion.
I expect it differs from person to person, but the warmth and affection people have for each other here (and the arguing parts too) remind me very much of a family. I don't think it's a strange analogy, and when I go into the chat room and people say hi, or when they remember me, or invite me to stuff, or just listen to what I have to say, I feel honoured to be part of it.
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I reckon you're allowed to feel, on your own, that someone is family or someone isn't family.

I have some people on here that I'd consider my family, but we have a relationship beyond the forum. However, I have also made some wonderful new friendships THROUGH the forum, and for that I'm quite grateful.

Lots of people feel family-esque about their peer group on the forum, but you certainly don't have to. To each their own.
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ugh I don't understand how people in a forum can describe themselves as family. I don't consider anyone here my family and I don't get it. I enjoy seeing the other regulars and I'd say there are some friendships made but that's the extent of it in my opinion.
You are just bitter that we put you up for adoption at age 34.
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Old 09-24-2008, 01:16 PM   #37 (permalink)
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Thanks for de-lurking and letting us get to know you.

I've been around the forum now for quite a while, some months, and I still feel like an outsider a lot of the time. Mainly that's because I don't spend as much time participating in and around the forum as I could -- I still just mostly read. I know my limits and threshold about just how much inter-family whoopin' I could take without wanting to take my ball and go home, so I just stay quiet.

It's actually really strange, because I am TOTALLY not quiet once you get to know me or in a more private setting. But I've had the emotional crap pounded out of me on some forums before, so I guess that's my own personal baggage I'm dealing with.

Either way, welcome aboard.

I was genuinely surprised to read this. It's part of the misconception noobs have (like me) in that we assume anyone who was here before us knows everyone else, and that's what I assumed about you, you seem to fit in so well.
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You are just bitter that we put you up for adoption at age 34.
I was tired of calling you "daddy" anyways. Pervert.
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Old 09-24-2008, 01:19 PM   #40 (permalink)
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See, Arilynn is your real competition, not the oldbies.

She is that charming, pretty new girl who was transferred in the middle of the year from some foreign country who is everyone's pet.
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Old 09-24-2008, 01:19 PM   #41 (permalink)
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I was genuinely surprised to read this. It's part of the misconception noobs have (like me) in that we assume anyone who was here before us knows everyone else, and that's what I assumed about you, you seem to fit in so well.
I'm just a BIG OL FAKER!

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See, Arilynn is your real competition, not the oldbies.

She is that charming, pretty new girl who was transferred in the middle of the year from some foreign country who is everyone's pet.
I agree wholeheartedly. I hated her,

but she's always so conciliating I couldn't keep it up.
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I've had some pretty big, sometimes really unpleasant arguments with a few of the regulars here and I don't think I'm unique in that, which is why i find the "clique" label puzzling. We fight a lot. And often it doesn't culminate in a huggy-huggy love fest at all but leaves both parties simmering in the juices of hatred for a long time.
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Old 09-24-2008, 01:29 PM   #45 (permalink)
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I agree wholeheartedly. I hated her,

but she's always so conciliating I couldn't keep it up.
Let's go, Reindeer Girl!

I'm sorry. That was rude of me.

Do you mean like that?
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Just like in alot of new enviroments, there is that period of "OMG, what do I do?!". Some people tip toe in and hang out until they become part of the circle. Others come in and bring a storm with them.

I've met some fantastic people here and I have learned alot of things from shopping in SL to political views I hadn't considered before. I hope you stick around and find all these cool little treasures too.
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I agree wholeheartedly. I hated her,

but she's always so conciliating I couldn't keep it up.
One time she was from Israel, the other from some country called Texas. The Texan started to get overbearing eventually, of course, but this was NYC so she just became the same old.
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When I first joined a year ago, (a year! ) I felt very intimidated as well. After a few posts, I lurked for most of that time. Usually, someone would have said what I wanted to already, and said it better than I could have.

I still feel like an outsider for the most part. Except in the politics forum.
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I've been around the forum now for quite a while, some months, and I still feel like an outsider a lot of the time. Mainly that's because I don't spend as much time participating in and around the forum as I could -- I still just mostly read.
I'm another who was suprised to see that you still feel that way. I already consider you to be an established member of SLU, having passed through the "bright new newbie" phase. You have a funny, outgoing personality, often post eye-catching photos to the Styles thread, and have a fun club with a very welcoming, inclusive philosophy which really impressed me. So although you may not post as often as others, even members newer than you are, I think you carved out an identity for yourself pretty quickly. And I, for one, am very glad you're part of our community.

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Holy fuck! Josh is banned??? I wondered why he has been so quiet. I swear I miss everything. Can someone im me with what happened?
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Collette: well that sounds like a good reason then.
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Cause he has said multiple times that its not up for public discussion.
Have a little respect for people's privacy. Jeez!
Then I stupidely step forward to side with Sarah and Collette because I felt that was a bit harsh. No one can expect us to be here 24/7 and to know all details about the latest forum drama

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That's true, but I think that, in a good forum, people should be allowed to ask questions, like asking the owner to post a reason... And people, can just choose not to answer.
I didn't think I was mean to anyone. But I got it ten times back.

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So now because Cristiano doesn't want his personal business out there, this isn't a good forum?

Why do you keep coming back then?

People have asked, multiple times and they have all gotten the same answer:

NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS

End of fucking story
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I never said he had to give a reason.

Just that I didn't see asking as a big deal.

If he didn't respond or said "its private" then thats his prerogative.
and after a while:

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I had never heard of it till now.

So .. I didn't know that.

I didn't know Joshua was banned even till an hour or so ago, whenever it was I posted.
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I apologize for being so irate towards you then. This BS has been going on for over a week now and its starting to get really aggravating.
I now try to explain to Vertigo, already I'm quite sad about things:

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What brought this on? I never demanded an explanation, just said ppl can be allowed to ask. I do consider this a good forum, I don't think I deserved that... I fully respect Cris' wishes to keep this a personal matter.
Now it's Sarah's turn to apologize:

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That's good enough for me. I was just wondering what the hell happened. I'd wonder the same if you stopped posting ect ect.
Then Vertigo has a go at me again:

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The implication that people are not allowed to ask questions pissed me off. Cristiano bends over backwards for people and even the hint that he does otherwise is BS and I will call it BS.

No one has ever been told they can't ask questions. They did however get told that it was not up for discussion. To keep hounding on it or saying otherwise just makes you look like an ass.
I now get pretty upset and answer the same way:

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Jeez, I think they are allowed to ask questions, stop bashing me. I knew about what happend, I didn't ask so stop that shit. I love this forum, that's why I come back. Wasn't any critics against Cris... So read what I'm actually saying and don't let your hate against me stop you from understanding what I'm saying
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Lila sounds like it was a sore subject.

So - maybe we can just drop it now.
Then Brenda pops up and say pretty much what I said and don't get crucified:

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I'd agree in most cases but in this one, someone well known here and loved by many *I guess we can't mention him if he is banned* stopped posting all of a sudden. Yes, it was discussed, but two people , who are hardly lurkers here, especially in Sarah's case, weren't aware, and asked, both out of concern for him, I'm sure. It is perfectly fine to say "It was a personal matter, that Cris has deemed of limits" and move on. It's just seemed some of the responses were unnecessarily harsh.
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I don't know why you started to jump my throat. I never attacked Cris. I didn't ask about what happened. I just said, that ppl here, including Colette and Sarah didn't know. So I said it must be ok for them to ask even if they hadn't been here every day to read what Cris said on the subject.

I know Cris allows questions here, but you don't seem to....

The outcome of this thread is that Sarah and Collette that originally asked the questions are still inn. Vertigo that started to attack ppl are still inn. Brenda was allowed to say the same thing as I did, and she's inn. I'm out because I said the wrong things.

So I definately say there's a click here.
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