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Briana Dawson · 05-06-2008, 12:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by prinţesă nină

briana is the coolest chick here.
i cant wait to be her partner

Beebo Brink · 05-06-2008, 12:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by prinţesă nină

briana is the coolest chick here.
i cant wait to be her partner

That's the sweetest thing I've ever heard you say. Watch it, you'll ruin your reputation.

Dnate Mars · 05-06-2008, 12:56 PM

Partnerships to fill in the box are not something I can ever see myself doing. But who knows what the future holds.

Allana Dion · 05-06-2008, 01:29 PM

Well I wrote a whole thing out but then decided it was way too intensely personal and I deleted it.

I'll just say this. Relationships are complicated and messy. Honesty is important in both FL and SL, even when it hurts and it often hurts.

Unlike most people, I don't see SL or online relationships as needing to move faster or be less real and it makes me sad watching people do that.

Jamie and I have been together online for 2 and a half years and I count that as 2 and a half actual years, not by some SL clock. Hope that makes sense.

Aydyn Kent · 05-06-2008, 01:31 PM

I would agree that partnerships can go either way. I had a partnership a long time ago with someone in SL. We had a great time together, we were best friends, and we loved spending time together. But whenever I was not online, she was off with other people. Back then, I couldn't handle that, it made me feel inadequate.

This time around, I've made it clear to the only person I'm talking to, that when I'm not around, she is free to be whatever she wants, and with whoever she wants. But when I'm on, I expect us to be spending that time together, unless there is something more pressing. ((It's kind of a D/s relationship... but not so demanding and very open.))

Tiana Whitfield · 05-06-2008, 02:15 PM

I had quite a jaded view of SL partnerships...and when I met my partner in SL we actually "officially" partnered within two days and this sounds so stupid but I really did feel an instant connection with him but I use to say all the time "Oh in 6 weeks when we split..e.t.c.."
I must of been a nightmare because sadly I use to think well this is SL its bound to go wrong so I surrounded myself in prim walls determined to be ok with it when it did go wrong..

But something happened! We genuinely got close, we went places in each others heads that neither had ventured before. I can hand on heart say that over time I opened up in a way I have not done before in a way that is very unusual for me.

We did have a scary time just after Christmas when things could of gone either way but somehow we worked it out and we now draw on it as experience as we plod on in SL. There have been times when I have thought its to good to be true and I get scared sometimes and tend to run away a little..its what I do..but through it all he has been my best friend which sounds so sucky its untrue I know..

I think that as long as two people are on the same page in regards to expectations and wants out of a partnership then something amazing can be had. Its when one has a completely different agenda without communicating that things get messy..because in all honesty SL partnerships are based on communication regardless of where you next take them if you do..

7 months on and I am still amazed at myself!

God I ramble. Sorry.

Rosie Barthelmess · 05-06-2008, 02:20 PM

Having not had any names in my partner box but no real SL relationship until recently, all i can say is when I see my SO in SL I enjoy the time we spend together, whether there's a name in the partner box or not.

Would I like a name in the partner box? Never had one but I think it'd be nice.

But I don't consider that up to me.

Ingrid N. · 05-06-2008, 02:22 PM

My partnering proposal was "Go make me a sandwich, dickwad."

He said yes

Shiva Shiskabob · 05-06-2008, 02:40 PM

what happens, happens.

Pol · 05-06-2008, 02:46 PM

This thread is so girly. I need to immediately watch some sports to counteract its deleterious effect on my machismo.

Charlemagne Allen · 05-06-2008, 04:47 PM

It's too late!

Wildefire Walcott · 05-06-2008, 05:23 PM

Kelly and I celebrated our 1 year anniversary last Friday!

We've never met in person, and who knows if we ever will- but she is my closest friend in the world right now, and I am hers. We talk about taking things into real life from time to time... but things are beautiful as they are. So nice to have someone who thinks like you do; who always knows what to say... and who gets the same thing from you.

Brenda Archer · 05-06-2008, 06:19 PM

My first two SL romances were great, but ended badly. In both cases RL seems to have interfered.

My third SL romance has mutated into a RL platonic friendship of long distance. This is probably the most valuable thing I have gotten from being in SL, but it also keeps me too busy outside of SL to go back to it much.

After all this though, I wouldn't do a serious romance in SL unless the door was left open to potentially take it to RL. I get too attached emotionally and fall in love. A pure SL only relationship would only make me feel more lonely.

I hope I have in some small way contributed to the girly quotient in this thread

Sooz Pascale · 05-06-2008, 07:05 PM

I've been pretty much left at the altar twice.

I'm just stupid enough to try it again....someday.

Sooz

Briana Dawson · 05-06-2008, 07:12 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sooz Pascale

I've been pretty much left at the altar twice.

I'm just stupid enough to try it again....someday.

Sooz

Circle Widdershins · 05-06-2008, 07:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sooz Pascale

I've been pretty much left at the altar twice.

I'm just stupid enough to try it again....someday.

Sooz

Candide LeMay · 05-06-2008, 07:18 PM

No poll? I don't want to think or express my opinions, I just want to click the pie option!

edit: I've managed to post this on the first try, without getting connection reset error, woot

Brenda Archer · 05-06-2008, 07:21 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sooz Pascale

I've been pretty much left at the altar twice.

I'm just stupid enough to try it again....someday.

Sooz

Understand.

IsaDaft Trollop · 05-06-2008, 07:45 PM

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Originally Posted by badkittybeth

I assume by partnership, we are speaking of a name that fills your partner box?
I hold to the belief you can be just as close with someone without them being a name in a box..

I partnered once after 18 months of not wanting to. He won my acceptance somehow with his proposal. A very good guy but he was also very married rl. The holidays proved as much. and well, you gotta put RL first during that time.

I do love someone here, but don't feel the need to have them in my partner slot. We know what we have, and that's all that matters.

Siobhan OFlynn · 05-06-2008, 10:18 PM

I introduced my real life husband to Second Life after we'd been married for nearly a year. We decided early on that we'd partner with each other in world to keep the drama factor low. It's worked out quite nicely for us. He has his friends, I have mine. We always have a date for our little shindigs and after everything is said and done, we get to have real life sex instead of or in addition to pixel bumping.

Before I met my husband, though, while I was in The Sims Online (the first online world I had ever experienced) I "married" three or four times in the nine months I played. Three of those were for fun, mostly. The fourth and last broke my heart. I know how intense online relationships can be. Cristiano helped me put the pieces back together and lured me first to There and then, to Second Life. I can't say enough about what a wonderful friend he's been to me since we met way back in the beta test of TSO.

That's my 2 cents.

I like weddings, real or virtual, so feel free to invite me to your online partnerings. I promise to cry no matter what.

05-06-2008, 01:29 PM	#29 (permalink)
Allana Dion engage @ ur own risk Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: California Posts: 1,383 Penguin Push Champion! Pinboliada (Zuma) Champion! Blog Entries: 1 SLShopper Ads: 7 My Mood:	Well I wrote a whole thing out but then decided it was way too intensely personal and I deleted it. I'll just say this. Relationships are complicated and messy. Honesty is important in both FL and SL, even when it hurts and it often hurts. Unlike most people, I don't see SL or online relationships as needing to move faster or be less real and it makes me sad watching people do that. Jamie and I have been together online for 2 and a half years and I count that as 2 and a half actual years, not by some SL clock. Hope that makes sense. __________________ --------

05-06-2008, 02:20 PM	#32 (permalink)
Rosie Barthelmess Lounge of Dreams Manager Daman's girl Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Rosadora, Holland Posts: 890 SL Join Date: May 6, 2007 My Mood:	Having not had any names in my partner box but no real SL relationship until recently, all i can say is when I see my SO in SL I enjoy the time we spend together, whether there's a name in the partner box or not. Would I like a name in the partner box? Never had one but I think it'd be nice. But I don't consider that up to me. __________________ No need to complicate, our time is short -- this is our fate, I'm yours . Trout Rated: 7.0 "You are evidence that a woman who is comfortable in her own skin has a definite advantage over those who are not." Rosie Barthelmess, Manager & House DJ Lounge of Dreams, Trapper (213, 37, 318) "Have a nice day, unless you've made other plans." http://rosiebarthelmess.com-- my blog thingamabobber. LONGEST SIGNATURE EVAR.

05-06-2008, 02:22 PM	#33 (permalink)
Ingrid N. ist hungrig reluctantly romantic Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 1,394 Blog Entries: 1 My Mood:	My partnering proposal was "Go make me a sandwich, dickwad." He said yes __________________ Oh No, Ingrid! - Fashion reviews, queer rants and horrible perversions. Written by a goat. Good times!

05-06-2008, 02:40 PM	#34 (permalink)
Shiva Shiskabob Semi-Demi God Bluuuuuuuue Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 815 Beat the Cheese Champion! Apprentice : Dairy Queen Champion! SL Join Date: 03/08/08 My Mood:	what happens, happens. __________________ Panic! Paaaanic! Is Himushet Anatra inworld. Minus th'pickles.

05-06-2008, 04:47 PM	#36 (permalink)
Charlemagne Allen Countess of Darkmere will not let you escaped from this horror alive.... Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: USA Posts: 2,982 SL Join Date: February 2007 My Mood:	It's too late! __________________ Charlemagne Allen: YOU'RE A RACIST! Charlemagne Allen: I HAVE CHATLOGS! smokergirl Lowenhar: HOMOPHOBE smokergirl Lowenhar: CONTENT THIEF Charlemagne Allen: RELIGION SUCKS DONKEY BALLS! smokergirl Lowenhar: KISS MY ASS YOU CLOSE MINDED HYPOCRIT Charlemagne Allen: YOU WERE AN ESCORT FOR BARN ANIMALS! Charlemagne Allen: ZOMG BIG SIG! Pretty things: http://www.flickr.com/photos/charlemagneallen/

05-06-2008, 01:31 PM	#30 (permalink)
Aydyn Kent Junior Member Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 21	I would agree that partnerships can go either way. I had a partnership a long time ago with someone in SL. We had a great time together, we were best friends, and we loved spending time together. But whenever I was not online, she was off with other people. Back then, I couldn't handle that, it made me feel inadequate. This time around, I've made it clear to the only person I'm talking to, that when I'm not around, she is free to be whatever she wants, and with whoever she wants. But when I'm on, I expect us to be spending that time together, unless there is something more pressing. ((It's kind of a D/s relationship... but not so demanding and very open.))

05-06-2008, 02:15 PM	#31 (permalink)
Tiana Whitfield Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Complicated Posts: 88 My Mood:	I had quite a jaded view of SL partnerships...and when I met my partner in SL we actually "officially" partnered within two days and this sounds so stupid but I really did feel an instant connection with him but I use to say all the time "Oh in 6 weeks when we split..e.t.c.." I must of been a nightmare because sadly I use to think well this is SL its bound to go wrong so I surrounded myself in prim walls determined to be ok with it when it did go wrong.. But something happened! We genuinely got close, we went places in each others heads that neither had ventured before. I can hand on heart say that over time I opened up in a way I have not done before in a way that is very unusual for me. We did have a scary time just after Christmas when things could of gone either way but somehow we worked it out and we now draw on it as experience as we plod on in SL. There have been times when I have thought its to good to be true and I get scared sometimes and tend to run away a little..its what I do..but through it all he has been my best friend which sounds so sucky its untrue I know.. I think that as long as two people are on the same page in regards to expectations and wants out of a partnership then something amazing can be had. Its when one has a completely different agenda without communicating that things get messy..because in all honesty SL partnerships are based on communication regardless of where you next take them if you do.. 7 months on and I am still amazed at myself! God I ramble. Sorry.

05-06-2008, 02:46 PM	#35 (permalink)
Pol Prim hair is for sissies. Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: the Davis Square neighborhood of Somerville, Massachusetts Posts: 207 SL Join Date: December 18, 2003 Business: Habitabla My Mood:	This thread is so girly. I need to immediately watch some sports to counteract its deleterious effect on my machismo.

05-06-2008, 05:23 PM	#37 (permalink)
Wildefire Walcott Shaven Maven Abducted by gnomes. Join Date: Jun 2007 Posts: 2,668 SL Join Date: 2005.10.28 Business: Desperation Isle Estates SLShopper Ads: 4 My Mood:	Kelly and I celebrated our 1 year anniversary last Friday! We've never met in person, and who knows if we ever will- but she is my closest friend in the world right now, and I am hers. We talk about taking things into real life from time to time... but things are beautiful as they are. So nice to have someone who thinks like you do; who always knows what to say... and who gets the same thing from you. __________________ Desperation Isle Estates: Great prices, great neighbors, great service! New Desperation Isle: The prettiest BDSM Playground and Fetish Mall in SL! Desperation Isle Productions: Scripted skyboxes for lots (and budgets) of all sizes! Wildefire Walcott's Mistressy Musings: My blog about D/s and BDSM in Second Life.

05-06-2008, 06:19 PM	#38 (permalink)
Brenda Archer Tired Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Portland Posts: 2,058 SL Join Date: 4/28/2005 My Mood:	My first two SL romances were great, but ended badly. In both cases RL seems to have interfered. My third SL romance has mutated into a RL platonic friendship of long distance. This is probably the most valuable thing I have gotten from being in SL, but it also keeps me too busy outside of SL to go back to it much. After all this though, I wouldn't do a serious romance in SL unless the door was left open to potentially take it to RL. I get too attached emotionally and fall in love. A pure SL only relationship would only make me feel more lonely. I hope I have in some small way contributed to the girly quotient in this thread __________________ Et ses mains ourdiraient les entrailles du prêtre, Au défaut d’un cordon pour étrangler les rois. - Denis Diderot

05-06-2008, 07:05 PM	#39 (permalink)
Sooz Pascale Transgendered & FUN!!!! I Can Make Your Day Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 2,556 My Mood:	I've been pretty much left at the altar twice. I'm just stupid enough to try it again....someday. Sooz __________________ 5.5 on the highly scientific Troutometer scale.

05-06-2008, 07:18 PM	#42 (permalink)
Candide LeMay is not a french girl Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 211	No poll? I don't want to think or express my opinions, I just want to click the pie option! edit: I've managed to post this on the first try, without getting connection reset error, woot