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Three and a half years!

Posted 07-22-2013 at 05:26 PM by Lewis Luminos
Updated 07-23-2013 at 01:53 AM by Lewis Luminos

I haven't used this blog in a long time and its incredible how much has changed in three and a half years.

Three months after writing the last post, in March 2010, I went to my gp to ask for referral to a gender clinic. I got my first appointment there in july 2010 and in the same month I legally changed my name. A year after that I got approval for hormone therapy and by this time my partner had agreed to let me go ahead with medical transition. So I started testosterone in August 2011.

In September 2012 I got approval for top surgery but I had a hell of a fight getting funding from the nhs, I even got my mp involved but he was useless. Fortunately the system changed this year and my gp got funding for me, and I finally had the surgery six weeks ago, June 2013. Its gone well but the nipple grafts failed so I will need further corrective surgery at some point later this year. In the meantime, they pass from a distance, the main incisions are already starting to fade and I am looking forward to going swimming soon. Topless.

I think I am done, then. As things stand now, I don't want bottom surgery. The results will never match up with natural male genitals and the risk of losing sensation and the ability to orgasm is too high. And its not like I'm dating and need to impress a potential partner. It would have been nice to be able to use a urinal but that isn't going to happen either, with my bladder issues I will always have to use a catheter to pee. I can do that standing up easy enough but answering an awkward question like "what is that plastic tube?" is just as bad as "why does your dick look like its been in a horrible fire?"

Maybe my opinions will change in the future, if I suddenly become single again for some reason, or if a miraculous cure is found for sacral nerve damage. But for now, I am just as happy with what I have now, as I would be with the results of surgery.

Things in SL have changed a lot too. I parted from Alice about two and a half years ago, in part because her rl schedule kept her away from SL but also because she wasn't comfortable with the same amount of rl-sharing that I was. I met Madison in early 2011 and we clicked, and when I told Alice that I had found soneone else it was almost a relief for both of us.

Madi has shared the majority of my transition with me and I am the luckiest guy on the grid to have found someone whose feelings and opinions about sl relationships - and rl ones - mesh so closely with mine. Plus, she is beautiful, in both worlds.

Now that I have this blog back (thanks, Cris), I am looking forward to sharing more of my life, sl and rl, with you, my SLU friends. This is absolutely the best online community I have ever been involved with and you are all awesome.
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    Madison Talon's Avatar
    And I am honored to have been part of all this with you!
    I owe SLU and Cris many thanks for our meeting.
    <3 you much

    P.S. we actually met in early 2011
    Posted 07-22-2013 at 06:26 PM by Madison Talon Madison Talon is offline
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    Lewis Luminos's Avatar
    Ooops. That was a typo. :/ Corrected it now.
    Posted 07-23-2013 at 01:56 AM by Lewis Luminos Lewis Luminos is offline
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    Shiloh Lyric's Avatar
    This was wonderful to read, Lewis. And Madi. From what I see and hear of the both of you, you make a perfect couple and I'm so happy for you. I know, now, how it feels to meet someone who DOES feel exactly as you do about relationships, both SL and RL. And, Lewis, congratulations on your transition. You've shared so much of your story with us here, that I've felt like we were living right along with you, and it makes me happy that you are happy in the changes you've been able to make.
    Posted 07-24-2013 at 01:39 PM by Shiloh Lyric Shiloh Lyric is offline