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(Feelings/Random Thoughts) SL may be a crowd, but some of us are still quite alone.

Posted 10-29-2008 at 05:27 PM by armozel
I hope this post doesn't come off soppy with emotion, but it's something that I think I'm not singular in this sort of experience. Namely, it's the experience of being around in any crowd (maybe fitting in, maybe not) and not really finding any sort of social or emotional connection to those in the crowd. I'm not sure if it's simply that I don't talk enough or find the right kinds of crowds to socialize in, but I tend to notice no matter how I change my attitude or my methods of communication, there's no interest to continue any conversation with me. Ultimately, I have to wonder if being what I am and who I am, and being up front about it in my profile, that it simply 'scares' folks away. In any case, right now I do feel quite lonely in the crowds in SL.
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    Lucifer Baphomet's Avatar
    Drop by anytime, (except of course when Io and I are up to no good in the airship).
    and remember a few other forum peeps live in the village too.
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    Posted 10-30-2008 at 12:37 AM by Lucifer Baphomet Lucifer Baphomet is offline
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    LeenaSerevi's Avatar
    You can only be yourself.

    Given the huge variety of people in SL you will eventually find some you get on with.
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    Posted 10-30-2008 at 08:11 AM by LeenaSerevi LeenaSerevi is offline
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    Beathag McMahon's Avatar
    I just looked at your profile.

    TG people have very different thoughts about what to put about that in their profile.
    There are at least two other TG people on this forum - Sooz Pascale and Lewis Luminos. Maybe you could discuss that with some of them.
    I can see that some folks might find your profile a bit overwhelming.
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    Posted 10-30-2008 at 09:53 AM by Beathag McMahon Beathag McMahon is offline
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    Charlemagne Allen's Avatar
    Pop by Darkmere sometime... would like to see you around. Or IM me anytime
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    Posted 10-30-2008 at 10:43 AM by Charlemagne Allen Charlemagne Allen is offline
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    Death Seetan's Avatar
    I don't think it's soppy with emotion. I tend to agree with you. I've not been around long, but I admit I only know very few people, and even then...I spend most of the time walking around alone and rarely see someone to strike up a conversation with. It's a bit weird when you see how many people are supposedly on SL at any given time.
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    Posted 10-30-2008 at 11:13 PM by Death Seetan Death Seetan is offline
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    Merrie Jewell's Avatar
    My first month in SL was similar, but then I had the luck to meet some very wondeful people and though over the year we have drifted to new projects, relationships, busy RL lives we stay in touch and our Club the Red Cat was formed simply so that anyone who wanted a place to call home , to hang out (leaving the drama at the landing point) is welcome and conversations are open to everyone. We dont judge an dwe dont like to be judged just here to have some fun and spend time with friends. Bottom line at the Cat you would not be a stranger just pull up a chair and join the conversation) We dont have big crowds and flashing lights) so reading these post it sounds like there are plenty of places based on these ideas of just a place to be you ) Places that dont see strangers just friends!
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    Posted 10-31-2008 at 09:12 AM by Merrie Jewell Merrie Jewell is offline
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    Malachi's Avatar
    I don't think it is you. The times when I enjoyed SL most was when I was doing something (building, scripting, creating, helping, organizing, etc.). I think it no accident that one of the first emotes added by LL was a function key that triggered a "look what I made!" sound.

    If you aren't busy in SL, you are left with "socializing" which for many people is not that compelling. After all, SL chat is nothing but IM or Twitter and it is very hard for me (and therefore I expect some others) to make meaningful connections through such a narrow pipe. When I was creating, other people and I could be generous with their time or experience which is vastly different than danceclub chat. Put another way - cooperating with others makes interactions more meaningful.

    Real life is this way too. That's why there are bowling leagues, churches, book discussion groups and so on: to give people a common activity. Even bars provide this to some extent where the common activity is drinking.

    Dance clubs are much like cocktail parties for some, where you have to force yourself to make conversation - oops I need to get another drink, excuse me. The only meaningful exchanges I have outside of a shared activity is chatting with one or two others where a conversation can be maintained.

    I enjoy SLU far more than SL because it is far more conversational. Do understand, there are people who find dance clubs a pleasing activity and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. When I do go, I do enjoy myself, but it doesn't sustain my interest long, but that's me.
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    Posted 10-31-2008 at 12:12 PM by Malachi Malachi is offline