I remember saying to my mother in front of her friend once, "mum, you haven't hit me today!" like it was the most awesome achievement ever. She blushed, and probably got the message right then that hitting me several times a day even for the most trivial thing was not acceptable behaviour. I felt terrorized by the threat of being hit by my father for a while, but that all ended when he did hit me and I punched him back and ran away to London listening to Jimmy Somerville's
Smalltown Boy on my Walkman. (Well, if you're gonna run away from home, you might as well ham it up with some value added drama.)
Anyway, I'm sure smacking your kids
can be beneficial if you're a good parent. The problem is that there are so many bad ones who don't know where to draw the line, that I'm reluctant to say "yeah, it's fine".
Generally speaking.