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Siyu Suen · 06-29-2009, 12:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Cindy Claveau

I've never had to spank my kids, ever. I wouldn't be adverse to a swat on the bottom when they were young, but I never had to go that far. They responded well to time-outs, denial of priveleges, and other punishments that fit the 'crime'.

That's the big difference, I think. My mother never had to lay a hand on my brother, not once, and he responded very well to being sent up to his room or having no more computer time for a while. I wasn't so reasonable.

I was definitely spanked and slapped (sometimes hard but never so it would hurt more than a day or two) and I completely deserved it. There was just no other way I was going to get the message to not do something. And sometimes certain kids just can't be reached any other way. Pain is the most primal of "no!"'s, and if there's a very clear cause and effect, with good reason and sound judgment behind it I think its perfectly justifiable.

Just as an example of a spanking offense, when I was four my mother took me and my brother and some other kids to the circus, and I just wandered away from the group. I was bored waiting to get in or something and I had seen a playground maybe a quarter mile away, so I just walked off, down a very busy road, and then played away on a near empty playground with no adult supervision. Blissfully unaware of the myriad dangers, it wasn't until I got an actual, tangible pain associated with that sort of behavior that I learned it was bad. I can only thank luck and my mother that I learned that lesson through a swat, and not through being kidnapped, hit by a car, or molested.