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Originally Posted by Aimee Weber  So the girl thinks, "could *I* get through to him? Might *I* be the one to get him to open up and trust me? He doesn't bow to anybody, but might he be so smitten by *ME* that he trips over his feet to bring me flowers?" |
I managed to escape the horse fascination as a girl-- perhaps only because my first crush (at the age of 5) was on Spock. Kirk was no challenge- who wants to be yet another woman on another planet? Nope, I wanted to be the woman who would free him from his emotional repression with my...
Thank god my development didn't stop at the hots for Spock, or I'd be destined for an emotional grinch. We get so many messages about gender roles from the moment we're born (I'd insert
Free to Be You and Me clips here, but one embed is enough, no?)
In a traditional marriage both parties knew what was expected of them. In modern relationships we're writing the script from scratch. Best friend, business partner, helpmeet, therapist, lover... It takes a lot of figuring out what you want and need, what they want and need, and a lot of learning how to communicate those needs. Is it any wonder we mess it up so frequently?