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Originally Posted by Chip Midnight  Not to pick on you or Lo, but you both bring up a similar point, and I have to ask... if you find you're leaving boot prints on people and considering them doormats who's really the person with the issue in the relationship? Just because you can walk all over someone, why would you want to in the first place, and what are you doing that puts the other person in the position of being walked on? I've known many (and dated several) women that like to constantly "test" their partners by pushing their buttons, purposely making them jealous, putting them in the position of having to fight for their affections, etc etc. Who's the passive aggressive one? My tolerance for that kind of thing is exactly nil. |
I don't feel picked on, don't worry
. I'm sorry if you felt attacked by my wording
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And I do not leave "bootprints" on people as such, I simply do not enter into relationships with people like that anymore, as I generally make a point of not entering into relationships with people I am completely incompatible with. I am not always the easiest person to be in a relationship with (but then who is?), this is true, but I generally get along well with people who are a lot like me: independant and opinionated
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I don't want to walk all over people, and I certainly don't
enjoy walking all over people, but in RL I tend to attract people who look for the mothering type. It's probably a combination of my looks and their initial impression of me, but let's just say I am probably the least maternal person ever. I want someone who is not cowed by me, and I also want someone who challenges me, in certain ways. Again, there's a difference between those people and jerks, as those jerks usually deep down are extremely insecure, which they hide under a veneer of, well, jerkdom.
Okay, I sound like I'm writing a personal ad, enough about my relationships
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