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Aimee Weber · 12-12-2008, 03:55 PM

I think female interactions with men are too subtle to be picked up by male radar. From the male point of view we have a passive women waiting (pining!) in her tower for the prince to sweep her off her feet, and it's entirely up to the prince to bestow his pleasures upon her (or not, depending on his desires and his alone.) But from the woman's point of view, she has noticed the prince, decided if she wants him, and has been pulling strings and making plans to ensure the unwitting male is funneled directly to her before he even realizes the princess exists. I'm sure SLU's women know exactly what I am talking about, if from nowhere else ... High School.

Also, I think the female attraction towards and desire for the alpha male could be seen in an analogy with the fascination every little girl has for horses (Bare with me, I'm going somewhere with this, I'm not just trying to justify my sizable My Little Pony collection.) A horse is a proud, powerful, wild animal that runs free and unguided. It is every little girl's fantasy to appeal to the horse, make friends with him, gain his trust, and eventually ride him, putting all that strength and agility at her disposal. Women aren't necessarily conscious of this, but these are the feelings that drive desire.

Fast forward 10 years, and now the little girl is fascinated with the biggest bad-ass on the football team ... the guy everybody else respects, fears, or wishes to emulate ... the guy who plays by his own rules. So the girl thinks, "could *I* get through to him? Might *I* be the one to get him to open up and trust me? He doesn't bow to anybody, but might he be so smitten by *ME* that he trips over his feet to bring me flowers?"

So the power exchange is different. The male side is overt, the female side is subtle.

Finally, I would like to say that women who repeatedly seek out and stay with abusive or overly domineering men often suffer emotional issues themselves that drive these unhealthy compulsions. I'm not blaming the victim, only saying that certain behavioral patterns are known to emerge from people who suffer histories of abuse, and these folks shouldn't be used as a typical example of the male-female power exchange.

12-12-2008, 03:55 PM	#34 (permalink)
Aimee Weber Queen of the Metaverse Edit Status Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 6,265 My Mood:	I think female interactions with men are too subtle to be picked up by male radar. From the male point of view we have a passive women waiting (pining!) in her tower for the prince to sweep her off her feet, and it's entirely up to the prince to bestow his pleasures upon her (or not, depending on his desires and his alone.) But from the woman's point of view, she has noticed the prince, decided if she wants him, and has been pulling strings and making plans to ensure the unwitting male is funneled directly to her before he even realizes the princess exists. I'm sure SLU's women know exactly what I am talking about, if from nowhere else ... High School. Also, I think the female attraction towards and desire for the alpha male could be seen in an analogy with the fascination every little girl has for horses (Bare with me, I'm going somewhere with this, I'm not just trying to justify my sizable My Little Pony collection.) A horse is a proud, powerful, wild animal that runs free and unguided. It is every little girl's fantasy to appeal to the horse, make friends with him, gain his trust, and eventually ride him, putting all that strength and agility at her disposal. Women aren't necessarily conscious of this, but these are the feelings that drive desire. Fast forward 10 years, and now the little girl is fascinated with the biggest bad-ass on the football team ... the guy everybody else respects, fears, or wishes to emulate ... the guy who plays by his own rules. So the girl thinks, "could I get through to him? Might I be the one to get him to open up and trust me? He doesn't bow to anybody, but might he be so smitten by ME that he trips over his feet to bring me flowers?" So the power exchange is different. The male side is overt, the female side is subtle. Finally, I would like to say that women who repeatedly seek out and stay with abusive or overly domineering men often suffer emotional issues themselves that drive these unhealthy compulsions. I'm not blaming the victim, only saying that certain behavioral patterns are known to emerge from people who suffer histories of abuse, and these folks shouldn't be used as a typical example of the male-female power exchange. __________________ "I asked the Ouija Board about the ideomotor effect, but it just told me to f*ck off."