| I don't like controlling guys, and I also don't like guys who think they are not controlling, but really are (generally by being passive-aggressive and destructive).
Well, I'm single now, so what do I know.
My pattern has been to have close male friends, but not to be able to keep any kind of romantic relationship. My friends are the bestest, so it's not all bad.
But it seems to me that a lot of men are very programmed by cultural ideas of marriage. If what we're doing doesn't match up to that, they break it off even if the relationship is going well. So I wind up with equal friendships, and no marriage.
Why can't people make a marriage be anything they want? Why are so many otherwise rational guys so attached to the old marriage script? I don't even think they're trying to be controlling. It's more as if they don't think it's a marriage unless the script is followed, so they give up. |