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Originally Posted by Lila  It's difficult to say for you since I'm not in your situation, but I know with the 'skeleton in my closet' (I know it's probably not the same thing, since you probably aren't ashamed of being deaf), I can never tell anyone that I'm not absolutely sure they will still love me  when they've heard.
The silly thing is that 9 out of 10 that I've told just say to me: Why were you afraid to say that? But it's person number 10 I'm afraid of. |
I'm sorry, Lila. It must be hard to have something that makes you afraid of this reaction.
IRL it is obvious if someone approaches me that I can't hear. Before, when I could follow conversations, I wore behind-the-ear hearing aids, which are easy to see with my hair back, and I didn't have a problem with asking people to repeat something or look directly at me when speaking. I guess that is easier than something no one can see and you feel you must hide.
You are right - I'm not ashamed of being deaf. It is more like Beebo said: It takes over the relationship and gets tiresome.