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Originally Posted by Derek Tafler  Some comments which I hope will assist Arilynn - if not then I will edit my post accordingly.
At some time in my recent past I had a very close internet friend who also disclosed that she was deaf. This gave me a problem to deal with, since my greatest passion at that time (and still) was/is classical guitar music, and I used to play the local amateur circuits, and I dearly wanted to share this with her. After considering the issue in depth, I came to the conclusion that this was MY problem alone - not my friend's. Thus I just accepted it. It was unfair of me to share my guitar interests with her.
I can understand people showing a natural curiosity, but not making it a topic in chat ... (if i read that correctly).
I hope you find that with increased time in SL, you become less self conscious of other people's attitudes, and find your own comfortable niche - the cartel sounds a great place. |
Very helpful. Thanks, Derek.
I think you right - I need to be less self-conscious. This has been a problem from the start with
SL. I freak myself out over other people and their problems/perceptions/understandings. This problem - talking to people without them knowing I am deaf - is not something that could happen IRL so it is very odd to me and doesn't help with the self-consciousness.
A lot of people in
SL seem passionate about music. But maybe this is because the person who has done the most to get me involved in
SL runs a music club and only goes to other music clubs (she is wonderful and I would have quit one day except she befriended me as I was going to logout). So I now spend most of my time in these places, which is ironic.
I'll try the cartel again. Thanks.