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Originally Posted by Beebo Brink  That's one of the main reasons I don't interpret hiding RL gender as "lying" to people. At a deep level, it can be more the truth than the physical sex someone was born into, and the deep-seated need to live out that inner life is threatened by telling people about the disparity.
Even for someone who isn't transgendered, there is often some kind of pull to express themselves in a different gender. Telling people you're "really" a different sex can effectively destroy the immersion, for themselves and for others.
I certainly don't mind if someone shares that information, but I never would demand it and to maintain the integrity of my own immersion, I simply don't consider it when interacting with that person inworld. It's not relevant. Period. |
Interesting post, Beebo. Thanks for sharing your perspective.
This is a little OT, but a little on topic. I have been wondering about what is "lying" or "deceiving" in
SL and what about RL should be revealed.
In my profile anyone can see that I belong to 2
SL Deaf groups (totally dead from what I can see). But I have had people IM me about music or DJs at clubs, asking my opinion, what my favorite is, etc. I usually try to give an ambiguous answer and either end the conversation or change the subject. But I don't want to deceive anyone or pretend that I am something I am not. I also don't want to get into the giant "Really? You are deaf? Really?" conversation when someone is just trying to chitchat. But I don't have it as clearly thought out as you do, I think, Beebo, and am uncertain about when being vague becomes unfairly deceptive.