Hm, In
SL i play an extremely effeminate male who, in many situations, is much more feminine than most women around him.
In RL though the situation is much more complex, currently i am an effeminate male who
will, hopefully in the future, go through a MTF transition.. If i ever manage to come out to my parents.
(yes, i'm 23, and yes.. i care what they think, a bit too much)
Go figure.