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“Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.” ~William Arthur Ward Photo By the Incredible Tempest Rosca Most people know Thanksgiving is a holiday in the United States (November) and Canada (October) that is celebrated as a day of giving thanks for the blessing of the harvest and of the preceding year. But seriously, what’s wrong with just giving thanks for the sake of being thankful? It’s been found that being grateful tends to make us change our inner dwelling tendencies and soundly turns our focus out to the world about us and by turning our attention to the outside world we become more aware of the positives in our life, making us more mindful of what we DO have instead of drowning in a pity party of what we don’t. Photo By the Incredible Tempest Rosca I kinda like the thought of that. So much so I will start now. I am grateful for all of you, I truly am. I keep seeing these signs people hold up and hearing about events where “Black Lives Matter,” wouldn’t it be a wonderful world if the only sign we needed was one that said “All Lives Matter?” Don’t “Muslim Lives Matter” or “Jewish Lives Matter”, heck, how about  “Abused Partners and Children Matter” they do, don’t they?… Read the restEclipseCao02FIN




November 2015
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The Winding Down

This is my wish for you: peace of mind, prosperity through the year, happiness that multiplies, health for you and yours, fun around every corner, energy to chase your dreams, joy to fill your holidays! ~ D.M. Dellinger For so many years now, heck pretty much since I started this blog, I blogged almost every single day of the year, including holidays. As many of you know, I’ve slowed down quite a lot. It’s not that I’ve nothing to say, with new maturity I just oft wonder if it’s my place to say it. However, I haven’t been idle, I’ve spent the days reflecting on life, mine and yours, our worlds that is and I can tell you, I’ve grown up some since I started this blog. You can’t not grow when you are throwing your life out for the world to read, and I often did, spanks and all, especially a few years ago. I’d like to think I’ve grown softer, maybe a little kinder, you know, kinda like that favored stuffed animal you carried with you as a child.… Read the rest22650590247_fb76414291_o

Of Human Bondage

Sometimes the simplest course of action is likewise the most perfect. W. Somerset Maugham once penned, “If a nation values anything more than freedom, it will lose its freedom, and the irony of it is that if it is comfort or money that it values more, it will lose that too.” Oddly, that feels kind of like the current state of the world, doesn’t it? What do you think? Outfit: Hair:  .Shi, Journey  **NEW**
Shoulder Pads: Jeune by Rowne
Harness: .Shi
Outfit: Dead Dollz, Feline Reloaded @Cosmopolitan Sale Room
Bracelet: MINIMAL, Bracelet Birthday Gift **FREE**

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Human Blight

We may have different religions, different languages, different coloured skins, but we all belong to one human race. ~Kofi Annan Seems simple enough, so ‘nough said. Outfit
Helmet: Azoury, Sorrow Headwear @ We
Zibska, Terose @ Gen-neutral
Top: -Pixicat, Metal top Shade
Skirt: =Zenith=, Hun Archmage Leather skirt @ We
Glam Affair, Cartoline @ Uber
Post: Di’s Opera Ear Worm

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The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing. ~ Edmund Burke My heart goes out to the people of France, my only hope is that through this tragedy we will come back and be triumphant. Hair: Wasabi Pills, Coral @Hair-O-logy
Glasses: Elysium, Carly (edited)
Earrings: [Modern.Couture], Healer @Collabor88
Necklace: Bliensen + MaiTai, #NousSommesUnis **NEW** Ear Worm

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I Got Dressed

You learn to rise above a lot of bad things that happen in your life. And you have to keep going. ~ Lauren Bacall I know some of you know what I mean, but most probably think “what kind of title is that?” I’ve been rumored to oft flit about my second life in nothing but my pajamas or underwear for years now, though, I am sure it’s just a rumor, right? Or truth told, to be honest, I still didn’t really get dressed a’tall, did I? I am still just wearing knickers (though I prefer to call them high waist shorts) and a bra top, I just threw on the floofy skirt from the Caoimhe outfit that was/is(?) sold at *SoliDea FoliEs* over the knickers. Heck, I’ve been wearing knickers and a bra top pretty much off and on for about a month now, not the same pair mind you, but still. I’m down to a random post a week, thank you very much! No words about life, happiness, or love from me! I am almost feeling wretchedly slovenly, the emphasis on almost.… Read the restI got

The Reflection in the Mirror

“When we give cheerfully and accept gratefully, everyone is blessed.”  ~ Maya Angelou I’m not really back, I’ve just found there is something very important I need to tend to, something that even after all this time weighs heavy on my heart. I have a friend with Early on-set Parkinson’s disease. He’s a further friend than a nearer one these days, but thus is the life of virtuality in most cases. I feel no less for him than in the past, he’s just wandered on to other pursuits. Any how, I digress, rather oddly, as this friend has never been to Second Life that I am aware of, at about the same time we were friends of the bester type, I came across Second Life’s “Team Fox.” SL’s Creations Family is about to have their annual Winter Festival for Team Fox. This charity is one of the one’s I personally enjoy because they donate 100% of the funds received to Team Fox for The Michael J Fox Foundation for Parkinson’s Research.… Read the rest22565817842_8698d46c8e_o


The important thing is this: to be able at any moment to sacrifice what we are for what we could become. ~ Charles Du Bos Please excuse the mess, I am momentarily busy becoming. Be back soon. ‘Real isn’t how you are made,’ said the Skin Horse. ‘It’s a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.’ ‘Does it hurt?’ asked the Rabbit. ‘Sometimes,’ said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. ‘When you are Real you don’t mind being hurt.’ ‘Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,’ he asked, ‘or bit by bit?’ ‘It doesn’t happen all at once,’ said the Skin Horse. ‘You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby.… Read the rest8272497125_7ce89c0c16_o

Betwixt this and the Other

Men kick friendship around like a football and it doesn’t seem to crack. Women treat it like glass and it falls to pieces. ~Anne Lindbergh Outfit
Hair: *Argrace*, Fumi
Earring: Kunglers, Philippa **NEW**
Necklace: Kunglers, Apis 2
Dress: Dead Dollz, Madison in wine **NEW**
Bracelet: [Mandala], Kyara bangle Ear Worm

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We Are Our Choices

“It is our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” ~ J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets Really strange how sometimes life throws things squarely in your face. You see. I’ve a quasi-friend of the new sort that I’ve come across recently and last night I was thinking I really wanted to ask him a couple of questions, but then as most of us do, I fell asleep with the thought cocooned away in the cotton ball ether of a deep nights rest. Today, as I was scrolling thru the WordPress reader and “liking” and commenting on the blogs I follow I scrolled across the below picture. The significance of this? The questions I wanted to ask him were, “what fingerprint do you want to leave on this Earth when you leave?” and “what do you think your life’s song will be?” I know, deep and ruminating for a Lil Cao. But the thing is, I reckon when I saw this picture it hit me square in the face I probably should do some deep thinking of my own and have a serious life check with myself to see if I am still on the path I once aspired to be on, or heck, if that old path is even relevant anymore.… Read the rest22364237186_5fc9bd4ba4_o

In A Glass Cage of her Own Making

Cynic, n. A blackguard whose faulty vision sees things as they are not as they ought to be.  ~Ambrose Bierce So many look forward to the changing of the seasons. We don’t really have marked seasons here in Florida. Well, I reckon that’s not true, in some way’s I certainly still do. Fall and Winter are those types of seasons where I mourn the endless travel of my years and realize I am older than I once was and just can’t seem to make this train quit soldiering on into my tomorrow. I used to believe that we all need to do our best to make change happen in the world but along the way the change was within me, not in my world. The sad part is when cynicism becomes the norm, creativity becomes next to impossible and from where I sit, I’m not the only one suffering this malady.  I see a lot of youth riddled with the cynicism the older generations gave root to, so much so I’d say the weed is over taking the field wiping out millions of the seedling  ideas of youthful dreamers.… Read the restIn A Glass Cage of her Own Making


“Destiny itself is like a wonderful wide tapestry in which every thread is guided by an unspeakable tender hand, placed beside another thread and held and carried by a hundred others.” ~Rainer Maria Rilke There has been so much talk about relationships coming and going, especially in the Second World. Heck, sometimes it’s rather comical to watch the: “dating”, “taken”, “engaged”, “unengaged”, “can’t stand the mofo’s” that glitter sparkly across friends Facebook pages from one day to the next. It’s almost like virtual people are oft more into “speed dating” relationships with a final fatal twist (I like to call it fast-food commitment) more than actual committed alliances. Sadly though, this sort of behavior seems to litter a lot of our first lives as well. I talk often about the tapestry of our soul and how I feel every experience we have from birth to childhood weaves a thread to this tapestry gleaning the work of art, our history, with the finest of silks and colors that we can’t even imagine and how as we age the people we touch, and who touch us, add a thread here and there and when we are gone the threads we have left on others souls is our legacy.… Read the restForgotten

The Tears Dwell Within

“Heaven knows we need never be ashamed of our tears, for they are rain upon the blinding dust of earth, overlying our hard hearts. I was better after I had cried, than before–more sorry, more aware of my own ingratitude, more gentle.” ~ Charles Dickens, Great Expectations If the words don’t come, don’t fill the space with the meaningless. Outfit
Hair Base: Vanity Hair, shaved base
Mask: Azoury, Yakov Helmet
Jewelry: Azoury, Excess @ On 9
Skin: Glam Affair Ear Wax

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I Want to Stay

It’s the game of life. Do I win or do I lose? One day they’re gonna shut the game down. I gotta have as much fun and go around the board as many times as I can before it’s my turn to leave. ~ Tupac Shakur Tupac only made it around the board 25 times, I wonder if he had the chance to have fun? Yeah I get it, we all have deadlines, but whose to say it has to be 24/7? Take a minute to be a kid, live in all aspects of your world, look at the world about you with new eyes and wonder. My personal favorite I try to do at least once a week? Be still. You don’t have to do yoga, just set still a spell and relax, reflect, realize, the world doesn’t have to be fast paced all the time. Worry a little less, now that’s hard, I get it, it’s a fact women worry 54% more than men. While men are linear problem solvers, women are typically more in touch with their emotions and worry IS an emotion. But the sad fact is, worry often leads to feeling anxious or depressed. Get some sunshine, take a walk, let go of the worry, even if only for an hour or so.… Read the rest21417041024_3264b663bd_o

Zero-Sum Game

“The end is in the beginning and yet you go on.” ~ Samuel Beckett, Endgame It’s a Monday, just going on. Outfit:
Hair: Tableau Vivant, Last Train Home
Sweater/Vest/Shirt: Gizza, Lakua Cardigan Set **NEW**
Skirt: Maitreya, Vivid leather Mini
Earrings/Necklace: H.M.A.E.M. La Fin de Siecle **NEW**
Long Necklace: LaGyo, Coven Long Necklace **NEW** EarWorm

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I Can Still Feel You

If I had a single flower for every time I think about you, I could walk forever in my garden.~ Claudia Adrienne Grandi love is more thicker than forget
more thinner than recall
more seldom than a wave is wet
more frequent than to fail it is most mad and moonly
and less it shall unbe
than all the sea which only
is deeper than the sea love is less always than to win
less never than alive
less bigger than the least begin
less littler than forgive it is most sane and sunly
and more it cannot die
than all the sky which only
is higher than the sky E.E. Cummings, “[love is more thicker than forget]” from Complete Poems 1904-1962, edited by George J. Firmage. Copyright 1926, 1954, 1991 by the Trustees for the E.E. Cummings Trust. Copyright © 1985 by George James Firmage. Reprinted with the permission of Liveright Publishing Corporation Outfit
Hair: Boon, KBO906
Dress: *Vogue*, Gia Gown
Bracelet: Kungler’s Extra, Yennefer
Earrings: Kungler’s Extra, Blanche
Lipstick: Zibska, Blacktop @Uber Ear Worm

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One Girl

Women are made to be loved, not understood. ~Oscar Wilde It’s Thursday, Friday is so close I can feel it. Hunker down and may this be the best Thursday of your life. As for the song, sometimes it’s written words that rule my destiny, other times it’s the tunes. Outfit
Hair: Dura, *DG* 63
Hat: .Enfant Terrible., Kia Headpiece
Necklace: [Mandala], Pearl Rain 3
Outfit: .Enfant Terrible. Kia dress Ear Worm

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Where the Road Turned Dark

“Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift.”  ~ Mary Oliver There are seldom moments as painful as the blinding punch in the gut that signifies the end of a relationship. It leaves you bereft, battered, and more times than not with very little self-esteem left. Falling in love is one of the most enlivening experiences in our life. It’s risky and addictive for sure, and for most of us it’s most blissful effects wear off too fast. But nature has given us this wonderful state of foolish, invincible, chemical-induced charm, and it reminds us that life is for the living, if we would just take the moment to breathe it in. But when we relax in the relationship, our less than stellar behavior patterns peek through and that’s when the arguing starts. Sadly, the more we argue and the more we react from our ego wounded self, the more out of touch we become with our own true self, our soul, and the soul of our partner.… Read the rest22009804271_e0847b8d36_o

Twenty Degree’s West of Nowhere

A tree is known by its fruit; a man by his deeds. A good deed is never lost; he who sows courtesy reaps friendship, and he who plants kindness gathers love. ~ Saint Basil “Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around.… Read the rest21791387785_b2a2b26cf1_o

A Singular Murmur from Another Room

Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough ~Oprah Winfrey Life is often hard, sometimes frustrating but then aren’t the best things in life the things we have worked so hard to achieve? Sure, anyone can dream, but why just dream? Why not make your dreams come true? My friend Debby Sharma has a post on her blog today about thanking your avatar. I was going to just post a picture today, but after thinking on it some I realized Debby is right, our avatar teaches us a thing or two about ourselves. At least Cao does for me. I won’t come out with a list of thankfulness because my thankfulness all stems from one thing Caoimhe has taught me. No matter what life throws at her, or me, we are OK. We carry a lot of “stuff” with us, our jobs, relationships, significant others, insignificant others, checkout clerks who don’t say thank you after you just spent your last dollar of the week, barbed comments, veiled threats, middle fingers.… Read the rest21270016004_a802b31ec1_o